This is a great red flag summation. I recently wrote about how to nail a design interview which interestingly touches on some of these points but on the reverse side of things.
I particularly like what you said about an interview being a joint opportunity for mutual exploration and the power of counter questions and push back. These absolutely rang true in my experience and can quickly inform you if the company will truly be the right location to grow.
Once again, thanks for taking the time to share these insights.